For the woman entrepreneur who has gone over the same decision forty times and somehow feels less clear than when she started.
When Your Brain Won't Shut Up
The R4 Method for Clear, Self-Trusting Decisions
Seven days of teaching, one move at a time, and you'll be doing the first one before you go to bed tonight. The written guide and the audio version land at the end, and they're yours to keep.
Free. Email one shows up in about two minutes with something to do tonight.
Yes, teach me the R4 Method
Pop your name and email in and email one is on its way.
Why can't I just decide?
You looked at your schedule and thought, oh my god, I have 47 million things to do today.
Or you were finally horizontal at 11pm and your brain picked THAT moment to bring up the email you still haven't written, the grocery list you don't have time to shop, and every single thing you forgot to do. (Always at bedtime. ALWAYS. WHY BRAIN, WHY???)
Your thoughts are headed in one direction a million miles a minute and you don't even realize the bridge is out.
Here's what's actually happening in there.
That ancient part of your brain remembers at a cellular level that saber-tooth tigers used to exist, and right now it's looking at your inbox, your bank account, and your to-do list and hollering, "THAT'S A SABER-TOOTH TIGER AND IT WANTS TO EAT ME!"
Because it believes you're in physical danger, it pulls blood, oxygen, and nutrients away from your prefrontal cortex (the front of your brain, where problem-solving and clear decisions happen) and sends all of it out to your muscles so you can fight or run.
Your problem-solving equipment is offline. Which is exactly why the more you think, the worse it gets!
This isn't a personal failure.
You. Didn't. Do. Anything. Wrong.
You're not indecisive, being dramatic, or bad at business or life. This is what happens after decades of being taught to override your body, question your instincts, and look outside yourself for the right answer.
Four moves, and you can run all of them standing in your kitchen
You can't force clarity by thinking harder, and now you know why. So we do something else. Over seven emails I'll teach you the R4 Method, which is four moves that get you out of the survive state, clear the static, and put you back in a position to make a decision you actually trust. Standing in your kitchen. Sitting in your car in a parking lot. Three minutes before a call you don't want to take.
Tap each move to open it up.
R1RegulateMove one
Physical safety comes first, so we tell that ancient part of your brain, hey, this is not an actual emergency, you can stand down. You'll get a somatic technique you can do at your desk with your hands on your knees and nobody in the room will know you did it. This one is your homework the day you sign up.
R2RecognizeMove two
Most women aren't struggling with the decision. They're struggling with the static sitting on top of it, and that static works like a thumbprint right in the middle of your glasses, tinting how you see your entire life. Here you find the one thought underneath the whole pile.
R3ReframeMove three
One question does most of the work. I'll also show you the sneaky thing that happens when a completely true statement talks you out of looking at what's underneath it, because that one gets almost everybody.
R4RespondMove four
Ordinarily you're on the thought train, riding it down the tracks at a million miles an hour with no idea the bridge is out. By this point you've stepped off, and you're standing on the platform watching it go by. That's where you get a split second to choose.
90 seconds
For an emotion to move all the way through your body
Emotions move all the way through your body in about 90 seconds, as long as you don't jump on the train and start feeding it. Which means all four moves take minutes, and nobody in your house has to know anything happened.
Here's everything that's coming to you
- Seven emailsEvery single one of them hands you something to do that day. R1 through R4 walk you through the method one move at a time. The fifth one is about the thing these four moves can't do for you, which is the part most women write me about. The sixth is an invitation, and you can ignore it if you want to.
- The written guideWhen Your Brain Won't Shut Up: The R4 Method for Clear, Self-Trusting Decisions, written out with the pieces that wouldn't fit in the emails, so you're not scrolling back through a week of your inbox at 11pm trying to remember which day had the taps in it.
- The audio versionIf you'd rather have me walk you through it on a drive. All of it is free, and all of it is yours to keep.
The guide, yours to keep
You're in the right place if
You've rewritten a message in your head three hours after you already sent it. You've replayed a conversation enough times to know your own lines by heart. You've sat with two options long enough that a third one showed up and now you're managing three.
You want to know WHY something works before you'll do it. (Me too. It's the whole reason I built this the way I built it.)
And somewhere underneath all of that noise, you've got a feeling about a client or a decision or a person that you can't explain and haven't been able to talk yourself out of.
So who's telling you all this?
I'm Melody Gaynor, a modern-day Shaman and the creator of the Quantum Medicine Wheel, and I teach women entrepreneurs the science behind their spiritual practice.
My fascination with the brain started at 9, working through craniosacral therapy textbooks with a medical dictionary open on one side and a regular dictionary on the other because I refused to skip a word I didn't understand. Spirituality came at 14. Behavioral psychology showed up in a college classroom. Quantum physics arrived through a biology professor who kept letting me stay after office hours.
About 12 years ago they all turned out to be the same subject.
Neuroscience
Spirituality
Behavioral Psych
Quantum Physics
Your brain is going to do this again tonight
So let's give you something to do about it. Put your name and email in, and email one shows up in about two minutes with R1 and your assignment for tonight.
Yes, teach me the R4 MethodFree. Email one shows up in about two minutes with something to do tonight.